I’m always curious to know how people deal with personal traumas and tragedies. There is the saying that in some situations you “forgive but never forget”. I do believe that sometimes forgetting is way better than forgiving. Some people suggest counseling or talking to get your feelings out, but that is basically just re-living those events; but does that really help, or does it do more harm than good?

Talking about something doesn’t change the fact that the said event has happened. Nor does it ease the weight of the pain. Maybe talking to a hypnotist to assist them in helping you ‘block’ it from your mind might be the only truly beneficial time to talk about it. But people in wanting to help don’t realize that forcing you to talk about things isn’t always good. ‘Getting it off your chest’ is putting it back in your head.

But does ignoring help, or is it like popping corn on the stove? It slowly absorbs the heat of the oil but eventually it explodes and what was inside is now exposed.

Is there really a right answer? Since you can’t change what has happened, it seems like the only thing you can really do is find ways to cope.


2 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Precious
    Jul 21, 2011 @ 15:54:19

    Ok soror-you have truly been in my head lately. Reading my mind-in my journal-something-because your blogs are so on point. Keep em coming! They have truly been medicine to my soul….
    Peace and Love


  2. Big Sis
    Jul 22, 2011 @ 22:50:39

    Something to ponder….if talking about a thing is still painful then it could mean that perhaps you haven’t coped/ dealt with or processed the situation. If you arrive at a point where thinking about it or talking about it doesn’t bother you as much as it did in the past…. Healing/ deliverance from the negative emotions atached to that thing has occurred or is occurring…..


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